WINNING AT WORKING: Words. Words. Words.
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They're only words. Some believe the school-yard taunt: "Sticks and
stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me." They're wrong.
Words can hurt you in the workplace.
I'm not referring to the caustic ones
spoken (or received) tainted with sarcasm, irritation, anger or
frustration, carrying an emotional punch. I'm talking about simple,
everyday, normal word choices. These words, like black ice, are not an
obvious danger at first glance. But, they can impact your results. So,
user-beware.
Words create impressions, images and
expectations. They build psychological connections. They influence how
we think. Since thoughts determine actions, there's a powerful
connection between the words we use and the results we get.
Think about these two words: spend and
invest. Would you like your bank to spend your money or invest it?
Since spending implies the money is gone, you probably want a bank that
invests. Now apply these same words to corporate budgets and see how
that influences thinking. Early in my career, I saw budgets as
allocated company money I had permission to spend. And I did spend it.
I never thought of budgets as investing in the company's future until I
was given profit and loss accountability for a new department and
discovered my flawed thinking. I learned that in order to grow the
department, I needed to budget with an investment mentality. Shifting
words shifted my thinking and my results. Try these words: problem and
challenge. Would you rather a boss see your mistake as a problem or as
a challenge? It's more than semantics. Problems are fixed; challenges
are met. Different words evoke different feelings. I have a more
positive frame of mind meeting a challenge than fixing a problem. But a
word of caution. I'm not suggesting you play the buzz-word game like a
colleague of mine who walked into my office saying, "Do I have an
opportunity for you." We both knew differently.
Here are two favorites: bodies and people.
As a young manager, I was jolted every time I heard another manager
talking about how many "bodies" they needed, or putting "butts in
seats." Later, I learned many of those managers struggled with
departmental morale problems. I could understand why if they saw people
as interchangeable pieces to a puzzle rather than individuals playing
an important role in their departments.
I realized the words I use to think and
talk about my workload, my goals, my projects and the people I worked
with influenced my thoughts and actions about them. So, I changed my
words. If I say I work "for" someone I have a different vision about my
work-life than if I work "with" them; same with my staff working with,
not for me.
Poorly chosen words can kill enthusiasm,
impact self-esteem, lower expectations and hold people back. Well
chosen ones can motivate, offer hope, create vision, impact thinking
and alter results. I learned in twenty years in management my words
have power over my thoughts and actions. They also impact and influence
people I speak them to.
If you want to be winning at working, learn
to harness your word power to work for, not against you; select words
that create a visual of the desired outcome; and choose each word as if
it mattered. You might be surprised how much it does. Want better
results? Check your words.
(c) 2004 Nan S. Russell. All rights reserved.
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Nan Russell may be contacted at http://www.winningatworking.com info@bn23.com.
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Nan Russell has spent over twenty years in management, most recently
with QVC as a Vice President. She has held leadership positions in
Human Resource Development, Communication, Marketing and line
Management. Nan has a B.A. from Stanford University and M.A. from the
University of Michigan. Currently working on her first book, Winning at
Working: 10 Lessons Shared, Nan is a writer, columnist, small business
owner, and on-line instructor.
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